NETTIE-ISM: It is not what you leave your daughters but what you are giving them while you are living that is important.


Every time I eat a sweet potato pie I remember when my grandmother made them, I also remember when my mother realized her mind had gone and could not make them anymore. At some point my grandmother’s pie recipe became lost in the abyss of Alzheimer’s.

The past few holidays my daughters have taken over doing all the cooking. I don’t have Alzheimer’s and I am able but I know it is important to allow them the opportunity to prepare a grand meal.

the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things—

This verse is the motivator factor for the book I am working on. This Titus woman is a teacher of good things far to many women today are not. What are we teaching our girls?

My grandmother was 100% woman and she expected a man to be 100% male. My grandmother was queen of her household. My grandmother demonstrated to her daughters the art of being female and they passed it on to their daughters. Unfortunately,unlike my grandmother my mother and my aunt, her daughters, worked outside the home so they knew how to cook just not her recipes.

Often when we, the grandchildren, gather those of us who were old enough to partake of her delicious pies will talk about granny’s pies. Now that is not to be confused with grandmother’s, my father’s mother, cakes; those recipes are gone too.

Those recipes are just a part of what made those grand ladies so wonderful. We were taught to respect them and we did, there were a lot of “as long as you are in my house” rules that we had to obey.

I went to church and liked it, when I visited granny. I watched grandmother cook, listened to her stories of back in the day. I watched granny date and not let him do more than kiss her on the cheek, I also saw her get married in church to a man who could provide for her. I saw grandmother serve granddaddy a hot meal when he got home from work. I saw granny crochet and serve as an usher in church. I saw grandmother gently counsel her children and grandchildren. Granny and grandmother were Titus women, they were strong, intelligent and beautiful women of GOD; what a legacy.

written by Marsha L F Randolph

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This has been an unbelievably stressful year! I began it editing FAMILY LEGACY (working title), blogging on my site NETTIE-OLOGY and making YOUTUBE VIDEOS consistently and then my computer crashed. After a few months of woe is me I got my computer fixed and continued editing, blogging and making YouTube videos. AND THEN I got an idea for another book, actually I had the idea for a while but the pages started formulating in my mind and so I was ready to start writing.

Did I mention that I screwed up the publication of BEFORE YOU PRAY FOR ME???? After getting the manuscript copyrighted and the book cover design created I was doing a final review, fixing some obvious technical errors and then the computer crashed. I HAVE NO BACK UP!

I don’t trust the “cloud” and I keep meaning to get an external hard drive but I keep forgetting and I have flash drives but apparently I did not use it. No problem- I thought. I will simply get a copy from the copyright place; it cost! Did I mention I am a cash flow challenged writer?

Nevertheless, I fixed my computer and started doing my thing. Long story short it is down again. Still no back up BUT I HAVE A PLAN!

This is how you know you are a writer, when you have to write even if it is using paper and pen. If you wake up thinking of plots, ways to edit to make the message flow, have abstract sentences flow through your mind at weird times of the day or know the computer repair man’s complete schedule and he has access to your computer 24 hours a day. I am a writer.

My computer is down, it is Christmas time and I don’t have credit cards. My family is more important to me than my computer so as much as I don’t like it I am using my husbands computer until such time as my computer is repaired. (My computer guy says I have one of the best computers out there and it is better to fix it than buy a new one.)

What is important is that I am writing and I have mentally done the edits for FAMILY LEGACY and written the first draft of the new manuscript, I am blogging regularly and I am thinking about the next book!

This is the life of me, Marsha L F Randolph, my normal!

FOOTNOTE: I am getting a second computer for my tax business and my crafting business as my computer guy keeps telling me I need. AND I AM GETTING AN EXTERNAL HARD DRIVE!    written by Marsha L F Randolph