Two things happened in 2019 that should have made me angry and give up but did not. One my computer crashed and the only copy of my ready to print manuscript was wiped out. And, my computer crashed and the only copy of the non-fiction book I was almost finished was wiped out. The almost finished novel was backed up but every time I started writing the computer began acting wonky and I just stopped working on it.
The good news is: The ready to print manuscript was copyrighted thus, for a fee, I can get a copy of it. The other good news is I do have a backed-up copy of the novel.
The even better news is: I now have a desk top computer.
Writing does not pay the bills, yet. I have other activities that I do to generate income and these business ventures are picking up.
It is tax season and as a preparer I am focused on doing legal returns.
I am almost finished my second baby quilt of the year and I have a few items to make for customers. These activities take away from my writing time BUT I AM STILL BLOGGING!
The bottom line? Life happened and I am still writing. My goal is 3 published works this year (besides blogging!)
Satan cannot stop what God has started unless you let him; he will try to stop you. Jesus said:
“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly” John 10:10 NKJV
Many people do not recognize when they are being attacked because they are focused on what people may or may not be doing. But the thief, Satan, comes to stop you from fulfilling your goals (kill), take away your peace and joy (steal), and sabotage your relationships (destroy). Directly with attacks on your finances, health, emotional well being or indirectly by attacking your loved ones if it means stopping you from moving forward he will do it.
“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation of shadow of turning.” James 1:17 NKJV
The bad stuff is not from God, it is Satan doing his best to stop you from reaching the blessings God has for you. However, if you don’t quit you will have what God has assigned to you. Yes, it is hard particularly when you are in the middle of a health or financial crisis.
As Christians we must remember to keep our eyes on Jesus. We must know and subsequently remember God’s words and His promises. It is because of Jesus that Satan cannot stop you.
“Finally my brethren be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.” Ephesians 6:10-13 NKJV
There are over 1 thousand reasons why you can’t do something but only one reason why you can: because it is what you were meant to do. When a person says “I can’t” it should be because they don’t have time: “I can’t go to the movies with you I am doing some research and a movie would delay my progress.”
One of the things I have to do when I am motivating myself is to stay away from discouraging people. For every five minutes of conversation I have with one of these personality types I spend a half a day reminding myself that they do not know everything. It is a problem because I know a lot of negative speaking people, they do not do it intentionally but they do it.
Many of the people I speak to have a victim attitude in which they believe “they won’t let” them accomplish a goal. This popular theme associated with lack of success is supported by the large number of organization designed to validate victimhood: American Civil Liberties Union (though they occasionally do right a wrong), Rainbow Coalition, NAACP, National Organization for Women and any other program that is designed to remind people of their gender, skin color or lifestyle. Far to many people have grown up hearing about how one culture keeps another culture down; if you are the suppressor you are suppose to feel guilty, if you are the suppressed you are a victim and will not be able to succeed. The good news is there are numerous people who ignored “they” and became successful despite their words, behaviors and ideologies.
I don’t know anyone who does not put off doing what they dream of doing it is called procrastination. There are lots of reasons why we procrastinate: “I can’t,” “they won’t let me,” or “now is not a good time.” The truth is people are afraid and do not want to face their fear.
Fear is at the basis of many peoples inactivity. In order to fulfill your God given talent and maximize your potential you have to step out of your comfort zone and live. You must share your identity, often with people who do not know you but will judge you without the foundation of a loving relationship, and face possible rejection. All do not think you are so great and your ideas, in their opinion, may suck! Failure is the foundation for success fear stops you from failing.
You destroy yourself by giving into the opinions of the world. By allowing the media and various organizations tell you that you are a victim because you are: female, African-American, Latino, Hispanic, or whatever you set yourself up for failure. Victims must become victors in order to live victoriously. It is amazing the number of Bible quoting Christians who fall victim of the same mindset and avoid success with self destructive words and activities.
Failing is a part of success, you will not know what works until you discover what does not work. If your first marriage was a disaster- you know what does not work in a relationship. I was in six different multi-level marketing businesses that did not work however I knew that I wanted to own my own business so despite the opinions of others I started my own business- those failures taught me: 1) what I did not know 2) what I do not want to do and 3)gave me excellent experience.
There really is no such thing as an overnight success, you have to be willing to dedicate time and energy into doing what it is you want to do. Not everyone wins the lottery, you will not be an instant millionaire chances are if you are starting a business you will be in the negative for a year a two.
As a writer the quarterly royalty checks are barely enough to put gas in my tank. This is the reality of competing with thousands of other writers in a market in which there are very few people who want to read “clean” fiction or non-fiction that stimulates thought. Five years after my first novel was published: THE TRUTH ABOUT VASHTAI, I am not discouraged. I am a writer even if other people see me as the woman who sells soy candles, homemade soap and quilts.
My message to you: Just do what you do and stop listening to people who have yet to reach their own potential. No matter who you are, where you started, or how you got to where you are now as a child of God you can do all things THROUGH Christ if you keep your eyes on Him. This is what I am doing- SEE YOU AT THE TOP!
You have to be able to imagine yourself achieving – doubt is a motivational killer. You should not depend on anyone to encourage you, support you or even be there when you really need him; I am not saying friends will not be there- just don’t depend on them. We can all motivate ourselves when things are going at least OK but when difficulties arise and the words of that best friend become cliche’ doubt can lead to discouragement which may lead to quitting.
I stopped making budgets years ago, everyone I ever made was a failure, now I develop spending plans. Budgets tell me what I cannot do whereas spending plans tell me what I should do.
Goals to me are like mandates: in 3 weeks you have to do this, in 6 weeks you have to do that. I suck at goals! I tried, I really tried when I was part of a business venture that had goals. I just could not do what was expected according to the time frame given.
I think people write goals according to what “they” say. When I was an Independent Sells Representative for a company that focused on things women were interested in I was my best customer. I did not achieve the next level in a year, which is what I was told was possible if I achieved specific goals. I did not sell the specific number of products which would allow me to bring in a comfortable income and I only had one party which was a flop! I was lousy at selling and knowing what I know now I understand why; I never SAW MYSELF as a sells person.
YOU CANNOT MOTIVATE YOURSELF TO DO SOMETHING YOU DON’T SEE YOURSELF DOING!
There is something about following your God given dreams that will keep your going during the worst of times. It is hard to motivate yourself when you hate what you are doing; God will never tell you to do something you hate. You may, however, have to do something that you don’t like for a season.
I was an LPN for over 20 years and I did not like it but I always knew that I would not always be a nurse and that was my motivation. I discovered many years ago my purpose according to God’s plan for me even when I was not doing what I knew I was destined to do the idea of it was my motivating factor.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 NIV
To many people settle for “good enough” because they do not know how to motivate themselves to get to where they once dreamed of going. Years of failed life budgets have resulted in self positioned obstacles that block the vision. The obstacles are excuses:
We lock ourselves in ideas of methodology that prevent the ability to make course corrections. It is important to develop a plan of action it is equally important to admit when a plan is not working.
We allow distractions to take us off our path. There will always be something else that needs attention- that’s life. Opportunities to do something different will occur. Friends, family, television, telephone calls, social media and invitations to special events can take us off task.
We seek validation from people who don’t share the dream. It is unfair and a waste of time to expect other people to fully participate in our dream.
Listening to the experts. Seeking professional advice is a good thing however it is important to tailor plans to reflect individual uniqueness. Not being able to do something exactly like the expert suggested can lead to discouragement.
We become too consumed with the goal and get out of balance. Neglecting our health, putting off family time, and not spending time to rest and reflect will lead to frustration.
Not enjoying the journey. Quitting is easier when your goals do not support your vision.
“Write the vision and make it plain on tablets that he may run who reads it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time; but at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; because it will surely come it will not tarry.” Habakkuk 2:2-3 NKJV
Expecting instant gratification is a vision killer. I Knew in 1996 that I was going to be a writer but because I was taking Ministry classes I thought I would be writing non-Fiction. My first book was fiction: THE TRUTH ABOUT VASHTAI published in 2010. In 1996 I did not know: what a blog was, I did not have a laptop, I knew nothing about self publishing nor did I know how to incorporate what I do into a how-to book. It took time to develop the vision and it I am seeing more detail everyday.
A final observation regarding finding your motivation:
YOU CANNOT MOTIVATE YOURSELF WITHOUT REMEMBERING GOD’S PROMISES
Faith is the life plan glasses that will give you the 20/20 vision needed. There is a set time, an appointed time as to when you will reach your destiny. If you cannot enjoy the journey then you might be on the wrong path.